5 reasons why you should move out

Okay, maybe I did not move out.

I was forced out of town, by my dreams, in a bid to pursue further education.

 

My point is, there should always be a point in time when you live on your own, at least once.

Well, maybe not literally (I live with my aunt),

but at least away from people you're dependent on.

Here's why.

 

1. Learn.

Being alone will 'force' you to learn, in a good way I hope.

And it's always the learning process that helps you become independent and responsible.

Not saying that I am.

Cause i'm still learning.

It's hard, but if you're learning, someday, it'll become part of life.

 

2. Responsibility.

Oh the R word which is heavier than it already sounds.

But yes, it's one thing you'll be forced to learn.

From filling up your car's gas tank, the dreaded car wash trip,

or even going out just to get some takeaways.

I will admit that I am a tad bit forgetful sometimes. Okay, maybe a little more than sometimes.

But nevertheless, oh how I've learnt.

 

3. Money!

Remember the days when you're done with your meal and

you just walk out feeling the breeze when your parents foot the bill?

Well, walk out now and you'll probably have to face the walk of shame as the waiter calls after you across the restaurant and escort you back to the cashier....

*well, don't ask me how I know, just don't.

Also, you'll start to wonder why are the RM50s in your wallet are vanishing

faster than Dominos can deliver your pizza.

 

4. Thankful.

Trust me, no matter how grateful you previously were,

you will be even more thankful now.
The mighty Internet or the brilliant invention of Skype,
the founder of telecommunications.

Especially if you've never said Thank God for Penang Char Koay Teow,

you will once you're reunited with it.

Not forgetting the people you've once taken for granted before this.
 

5.  Decide.
Decisions, decisions.
Finally, you will learn how to make em, and be responsible for them.
life is always easier when someone else makes the (major) decisions for you
and you can just flow along.
but then you'll reach a point in life
when you can't just tell the waiter
"i'll have anything",
*I mean, unless you're the reason why people hate working in the service line*
just as you did to your father when he asks you about dinner.

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Nevertheless, it's not that scary once you've tried it.
but like every life-changing decision,
it takes courage, something which I am still gaining everyday.
and so will you, if you're willing to take a leap and
follow the winds of life to wherever it may lead you to.

 

x

 

lots of love,

 

They love me; they love me not.

 

"Loves me, loves me not..."

Remember that thing we do when we're small?

 

 

when we pick the petals of the flowers, hoping that the last petal will end at "loves me"

so that yay, someone loves me.

 

x

 

truth is : we still do it now.

minus the flower - maybe.

 I mean, let's be honest.

everything we do, it's all for the love of someone else.

 

especially with social media around,

every like, every status, every photo.

when you're hoping for

 

 

but in reality...

 

 and if you come back after 2 hours without a facebook notification, you go :

 

 

now don't get me wrong.

I'm an avid social media myself.

there's nothing wrong with that (I guess)

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what i'm trying to say is that sometimes,

its like the way we pluck the flower petals when we were small,

trying to see if (someone) loves us or not -

in the midst of chasing the idea of adoration by everyone else,

we may lose the beauty of things around us;

or sometimes destroy beauty (of some sort) in order to reach the beauty everyone else paints,

- just like the flower's petals we plucked.

 

 

 

 



Only read if you're in need of a boost in life!

 

 

Hey there!

If you're reading this you're probably in some kind of rough patch huh?

 

sometimes you just feel like the world is moving and you're in it but not part of it?

 

something like ^ this

 

Well, listen to this while you read me okay?

 

 

bytheway, this post is totally dedicated to Jason Mraz and his lovely song - 3 Things

 

to sum it up,

its about the three things Jason does when his life falls apart.

1. (cry and) move on

2. be grateful for every phase of your life

(pleasant or awful, there's bound to be lessons worth learning eh?)

3. being optimistic (?)

 

x

 

now for my three things I do when I feel down or am having tough times :

 

1. watch funny vids or movies, read (lame) jokes

the proportion should be based on your level of sadness

- the sadder you are, the stupider the videos should be, trust me.

even if you laugh reluctantly, the laughs will fill and clear your lungs, nothing feels better, really.

 

like this :

 

or this :

 

2. talk

a friend, family, your idol in your wall posters or even your plush toy

*just make sure you close those windows

getting it out of your system is better than holding it in.

you're just human, not a blackhole.

 

 

P.S. - and hug someone if you have to

 

3. take a break

go out!

 

 

go for a walk, shopping, drive, eat, have a vacation, read a book - whatever.

and in contrary to natural instinct, go out, a lot to get your mind off it.

 x

you can and you will get through this. trust me.

also, do share your three things you do when you're down!

bonus :